The only truly important thing in life is yourself, but isn't it ironic that we pay so little attention to us and instead worry about everything else around us? You would think we would take a little bit more time caring for ourselves, loving ourselves, and listening to ourselves--but instead we let our environment and the outside world distract us from the bigger picture. We are that bigger picture.Nobody ever teaches us to really look deep down into who we are without letting our surroundings and experiences define us.
"Who are you?"--one of the most difficult questions people come across and many often have a hard time answering it. We let so many outside and insignificant things define us as an individual and many times they aren't positive influences.
We have to detach ourselves from these things that we give so much importance to. We hold these things up in our mind; whether they be people, material possessions, relationships, events--we hold them up to an expectation and when they disappoint us (just like we already know they will) we let our whole world crumble before us. And then we decide to blame everything/everyone but ourselves for our unhappiness. Now, that doesn't make a lot of sense.
So why do we give this power over ourselves to things that truly have shouldn't have the importance that we entitle them? We put so much of our energy and happiness into things and then wonder why we end up sad, mad, or disappointed so many times. In order to truly be happy we need to be comfortable living a life knowing that anything can happen. We need to get rid of expectation and give up attachment in order to live a happy life.
Take the time to write down the things that you give so much of your time, energy, and thoughts to and truly ponder on whether or not they have the power to alter your happiness. If they do, let them go. You don't have to delete these things from your life--but you must let them go, let them be, they don't belong to you, they are all temporary things that we let ourselves be affected by. Enjoy them, appreciate them, love them, see the beauty in them, find the humor in them, but don't let them control your happiness--there is a huge difference.
Find humor in the situations that cause you to question your comfort. Life is pretty funny if you think about it--you are reading this right now. You are in the moment. Regardless of how many years you've lived, how many things you thought would ruin you or make you unhappy, all the things that once made you mad, and all the people that once made you sad--are not important in this very moment. That is because they are all temporary things we let our minds grab onto and run with. At that moment we let those things make us who we once were--but contrary to popular behavior, you should always be YOU no matter what happens.
There should be nothing in the entire universe that should ever make you anything but happy. It's all about what we give importance to.
