Be Patient, You Are Where You Need To Be

Sometimes I feel like I have so many things that I want to do and I let myself become stressed out, as I become impatient and dissatisfied with the position I'm in.

However, I have to constantly remind myself that I need to be patient and that everything is a process with a successful outcome. Although I have failed countless times, all my actions I recognize as successes. They are successes not because they turned out the way I wanted them to, but because they turn out the way they needed to in order for me to grow, improve, and learn. And if in every circumstance I grow, improve, and learn--that only makes me a better person and only furthers my evolution in all areas. And when I become a better person, that is a success in every aspect of the word.

Only when I was able to learn to appreciate the process of my work and everything else, was when I truly realized I am exactly where I need to be. If anything in my life were any different, if I would have rushed anything, or changed the way I had done a task, I wouldn't be exactly where I am right now. I wouldn't have learned the things I know now, I wouldn't have been put in the places that God and the universe wanted me in. I wouldn't have met all the wonderful people who have been put in my life at random and unexpected moments, who have learned from me and vice versa.

However, if you are a person who feels like they aren't where they should be, or if you are unhappy with the place you are in
--switch up the way you look at things. Be aware of the way you feel and why you feel that way. You can't blame people or circumstances for this, but instead take responsibility for not letting yourself be happy in the position you are in. Rather than seeing everything as negative or hindering to yourself, see these things as positive and necessary for your growth and happiness. Instead of creating negative energy that makes you feel shitty, let it go. Let the bad stuff go, and now try and only focus on the good. Become grateful for them, rather than hateful of them. Once you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.

Being patient isn't always easy. Patience comes with the necessary action of trusting yourself--and unfortunately, many of us don't trust ourselves. That is one of the most important and vital components of being happy and succeeding, is being able to trust that you are capable, committed, and motivated enough to accomplish your goals. Without having trust in yourself, how can you have trust in the process of your actions? You can't. It doesn't add up. You must first establish the trust within yourself, which will then carry over into having trust with the process of everything that comes your way.

Often, I become very anxious because things don't go my way, or don't turn out exactly the way I expected them to. But I had to learn to appreciate the art of uncertainty and learn to see everything as a success, no matter how I felt about it. Sometimes we let our emotions control so much of ourselves, but what we don't realize at that moment is that emotions are just temporary states of being which we often act upon. I have learned that no real decision can be based off of emotion. Often times when we act off of emotion, we regret it or ponder on whether it was the right thing to do. We often say things or do things we don't mean based off of anger, sadness, or even temporary excitement and happiness. We don't take enough time to evaluate the process and consequences of the way things may turn out when we decide to do things differently then we are supposed to.

I have learned that I have to see things as a map, rather than just a pinpoint or destination. When I look at things through the layout of a map, it gives me the chance to see the bigger picture. I am able to see other roads I may take, shortcuts, roadblocks, and things that may get in the way of where I'm trying to go. I am able to better appreciate and see the process of the journey from a different perspective, rather than just focusing on the destination. When you focus only on the pinpoint of your destination, you are blinded to all the good and bad things that come along with the journey. You are unable to see the signs, pitstops, or detours along the way, that are ultimately there for your benefit.

Being patient has made me appreciate the little setbacks that come with everything. Rather than hating them or becoming irritated or anxious with them like I used to be, I now see them as necessary for my growth and improvement overall. I see them as tests and evaluations that remind me that everything, no matter what it is--is a process that involves twists and turns, ups and downs, that will eventually get me to where I need to be in life. Sometimes unfortunate events mask themselves to be negative, but they are only a test where you are the person who gets to decide whether or not you turn that negative into a positive. Furthermore, with every negative, there is a positive waiting to be seen from an alternate perspective.

We are all so desperate to understand why things don't go our way, or why things take longer than we expected them to. But we are the ones who actually fail to be understanding of the process. It's no surprise that expectation leads to disappointment, and I feel like I am constantly reminding myself and others that we have to be absolutely comfortable with having no expectations. We must learn to be patient and comfortable knowing that not everything will go our way, and that's OK. Once you master this and the art of patience, nothing will ever disturb your peace. And when begin to control that one aspect of yourself, you will slowly realize that you will always succeed, regardless of anything that comes your way. You just have to remember that you are exactly where you need to be. Everything happens the way it's supposed to.