Stop Living in Fear & Embrace Change

Hey everybody!!! I'm back! I haven't blogged in awhile and I really haven't come up with an excuse for my writers' block. But I will begin by saying, I am thankful to all of you for actually reading my posts and really hope I am able to get through to at least one person with my blogging. I began this blog for multiple reasons. First, for me. One of my goals was to share my experiences and lessons with people in life--and it just so happens I also enjoy writing, so here we are! However, second and most importantly, I did this for you...yes YOU! Why, you ask? Well simply because I believe we are all put on earth to help each other, care for each other, and share our lessons and experiences with each other, all in order to grow. There is not one person on the planet that has acquired the same amount of knowledge and facts as another person--so why don't we use that to our advantage and share the love, lessons, and experiences so that we can all live to become the greatest version of ourselves?!

Recently, I conclude that I have just been observing and note-taking the things that go on in my life, in others', and all around the world. There is so much going on around the globe and domestically, it is sometimes hard to just sit back, take a breath, and remember we are alive. There have been many troubling events that have happened recently that have invoked fear in millions and even more fear in those who already concur. In regards to these events, I just want to say, don't be afraid. Of course fear is justified under these circumstances, however that is the easy way out. Anyone can be afraid. Not everyone has the willpower and mindset to look past fear and break down the wall in order to accomplish change and awareness. In addition, when we are afraid, we often react off of emotion and many times we regret our reaction. When we are afraid we hurt people, we don't allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we don't see the bigger picture, and in the end the person we end up hurting the most, is ourself. I'm not saying it isn't okay to be scared, all I'm saying is that we need to step up and be the change--be that person that those in fear can look to for peace, compassion, and logic in tough situations. If we were all living in fear, the world would be crazier than it already is. Fear invokes war, insecurity, pain, anger, and a handful of other emotions that don't serve us well.

Although fear is something that instinctively makes associations to keep us from harm, it also is something that we have been conditioned to feel in MANY circumstances. There is much science behind the psychology of fear that I won't get into, but is definitely something you should educate yourself on if you haven't already learned about it in school.

There may be many of you who deny your fear of certain things, but the perfect contradiction to that argument is your action and reaction to situations that involve necessary change for growth. Many who continue to proclaim, "I'm not afraid of anything" are most often the people who are AFRAID to admit that they are afraid!! Isn't that ironic??? However, it is nothing to be ashamed of. If anything, you should be glad to know this and instead work towards a solution to this little misunderstanding. The best thing to know in times of fear is that you are not alone. There a millions of people who are afraid of millions of things--few out of our control, but many in our control! Often times getting rid of fear involves one simple act, however we refuse and won't allow ourselves to take that first step towards change and progress.


There are infinite fears that exist within our world. Some people are afraid of death, which is very plausible if they are in a life or death situation. However, many of the fears that we hold involve disrupting our "happiness", but if you've learned anything from me you know that happiness comes from within and that not one thing or person can truly bring you happiness unless you allow it. Many of us are afraid of getting out of an unhappy relationship because we are afraid nobody else will want us. We are afraid of: moving somewhere new, meeting new people, falling in love, having people dislike us, sharks, eating healthy, learning new things, getting in shape, spending money, getting hurt, the list is truly never-ending!

Now, some of these things don't sound all that bad, but people really live their entire lives afraid to step out of their comfort zone. I've been there and I bet many of you are too. By living in fear, you only attract more fear into your life because that is the energy that you have chosen to focus on. This is why those who are afraid, have been afraid of many things for most of their existence--the same way negative people continuously attract negative things into their life, there is no exception with any other emotion. What you focus on grows in your life, and if you choose to focus on the fear of things rather than all the growth, change, and progress--then you aren't doing it right. Life is too short to be afraid.

It is essential for our happiness, health, wealth, freedom, and mind that we unlearn all of the things we have been conditioned to fear in order to live a happy and limitless life. We must break down the walls we have put up for ourselves. Be the leader and let people know that fear only holds them back from what could be. Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world. Don't let fear defeat you and all that you want in life. Hope is the only one thing stronger than fear, so have hope. Replace any fear you hold with the desire for something better. Many of your fears may be subconscious, so figuring them out may involve some looking in the mirror and a little soul
searching--but that's okay because that is the only way you can truly grow as an individual.

Whenever you find yourself afraid, that is the perfect moment to make a change. Change should never be feared, but instead welcomed. Without change, nothing in the world would ever grow or blossom and nobody would ever move forward. Stand up for yourself and don't fall for the tricks your mind plays on you. Be aware of your thoughts and how they make you feel. Emotion is impossible without first, a thought. Therefore, fear is impossible without first, a thought to manifest it. Embrace change and allow it to mold you into the person you want to be.

There is no progress without change. So we must no longer fear the unknown, me must live in the moment and not fret about what may go wrong. It is important that we have hope and confidence in what will be because everything always works itself out the way it's supposed to as long as you're taking the necessary steps and making a change along the way. Always do the right thing for yourself and for others. Not everyone is strong enough to get past their fears, they need to be reminded and encouraged-- be that person in someone's life. Be that person for the world and make a change that people can look up to. This world is designed for us to be afraid, but there is no illusion greater than fear itself. Once you conquer fear, it no longer has power over you--it shrinks and vanishes and then you become who you are meant to be. You change the world because you have changed yourself.